Man is a social animal, he is interdependent on the society for his well being. I brag that I am a loner but the fact is I am as dependent as any other guy. I am fairly good at programming and swimming. I have worked hard (VERY) to obtain a modest level of expertise in them. I constantly try new things like writing, speaking, drawing etc. I am a hacker at heart and I enjoy tinkering with things in my microcosm and discover ways to grow in the process. I have a strong support from my parents and am very grateful for that.
I started programming when I was 14. I wanted to be a game developer. I struggled at programming small games and in about a year I improved. I learnt from coding to animating images and finally clubbing them all together with the right set of sounds. It is not much but to me it seemed a colossal effort. I figured that this is my talent and I must pursue it as a profession. My parents were not convinced, they felt studying and getting into a good college was more important. In college, I was lucky enough to get into programming through clubs. I built a SMS based system that would give me access to internet by sending messages, my friends thought it was revolutionary. I even built a small desktop application to send messages. People into this profession commended my work but my parents still thought it was a cheap gimmick. I worked because I enjoyed the work. I was like a dog chasing cars, I would finish a project and run behind the other. I am one of the people who just likes playing rather than winning.
I went with my instincts and did what I loved and eventually it paid off. My dad has an eidetic memory with respect to numbers so he remembers birthdays very easily. I (Normal Human) was tired of wishing people “Happy Birthday” by seeing the facebook reminders so I wrote a script that would wish all my friends for their birthdays for good :P. My dad was very impressed, he gradually started taking interest in my “projects”. He even invested in a server for me. I did not understand how such a small app could boost my image in his eyes so much. I believe I had crossed the threshold. It was not the birthday app but my constant zeal of experimenting with programming for 7 years that helped me cross the barrier. (Wow that’s almost third of my life!). The situation here was a gray area. I saw the white portion where I an awesome developer . My parents saw the black area, where I was a kid interested in tinkering. This lead to difference in opinion. Either I had to point out the white areas in the picture or wait till they randomly stumbled on the white part. Kind of like the image of the lady/woman above.
We all have our own internal microcosm. I picture it like a house. Some stay nearby so we can communicate easily. The others we need to put effort to use Google maps (don’t use apple maps :P), find the right bus, endure traffic and travel to communicate. Once you reach them, further communication becomes simple. It’s the initial step that is very hard. I had to wait patiently for 7 years to convince my family that I was good at what I do because I did not take the effort t o travel.
My parents were looking for assurance that I was passionate about my Hobby. The fact that I did not convey my interest was clearly a failure on my part. It’s easy to blame others because we see the white in the gray areas. The truth is we need to be open to the black area too. Any skill, relationship is a learning curve I feel. Some start out well but eventually you have to put effort to cross the barrier. Once you cross the barrier, the journey becomes smooth.
My dad wholeheartedly supports my writing, personal projects and even gives amazing inputs now. My parents are enthusiastic about my endeavor to reduce my carbon food print. I just had to convince them why I loved my planet so much . They want to join me in my monthly initiative to plant saplings too. I had found a page through facebook 😛
If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough. – Albert Einstien. If we explain why we want to do something clearly we obtain most people’s support. Communicating ideas and opinions is very important I feel. I have realized through failures that I need to improve my basic communication skills . The failures seems like lessons now.
Thank you for reading. I still haven’t convinced my parents to buy me roller blades though 😛
P.S The facebook page for planting saplings in Bangalore
https://www.facebook.com/pages/SAVE-TREES/237779238788?fref=ts